If you are struggling with a loss of desire or with feelings that you have lost your attractiveness, it is important to talk to your health care provider, a mental health care provider (such as a social worker, psychologist or sex therapist) or a counselor. These providers can often offer treatment and support services. Also, there are providers who specialize in the treatment of sexual problems for women who have been diagnosed with cancer. The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH) can help you find specialists who are trained in sexual health concerns for people with cancer. Support groups may also help you address problems with physical intimacy.

Open communication between you and your partner is an important step towards reclaiming your sexuality. Partners may be confused or unsure of the best way to show support and affection. They may retreat or wait for cues from you about when to resume an intimate or sexual relationship. Discussing each person’s fears, hopes and comforting each other can help you and your partner have a satisfying sexual relationship.

Exercise has been shown to help improve sexuality and body image concerns among breast cancer survivors [156]. And, some research findings suggest that cognitive behavioral therapy (a special type of mental health counseling that may also combine techniques such as relaxation exercises) may improve sexual functioning for breast cancer survivors [157]. At this time, few people are trained in cognitive behavioral therapy and it is not widely available.